#1 Sex starts in the mind
Use the power of your mind to get you to a place that leads to a boost in your libido. Use a little delayed gratification to not only get your partner excited throughout the day, but to help you get excited for what’s to come as well.
*Send sexy texts throughout the day saying what you plan to do to them…adding a photo is a bonus!
*Leave a sexy note in their wallet, briefcase, or somewhere they are bound to find it before getting home.
*If you find time, sneak in a little phone sex to get you both in the mood for later.
*Schedule regular date nights to ensure uninterrupted alone time…get a little handsy under the table or inthe car on the way home
#2 Eat healthy foods known to help increase your libido
Although there is no ‘magic food’ to increase your sex drive, there are many foods, some specifically labeled as aphrodisiacs, that can help boost your libido to help get you in the mood.
*Foods high in vitamin C can boost circulation and fuel your adrenal glands (which produce sex hormones) which may help increase libido in women (foods like kale, asparagus, spinach, and broccoli)
*Smart carbs like brown rice help maintain energy and libido
*Superfoods like hemp can stimulate libido and decrease some effects of menopause
*Foods that are good for the heart (whole grains, fiber, seafood, legumes, nuts, fruit, leafy greens, healthy oils like sunflower and olive)
*High-quality protein, omega-3 fats
*WATER! Dehydration can cause vaginal dryness, which is one of the leading causes for a decrease, or lack of sex, in some relationships.
*Aphrodisiacs (dark chocolate, oysters, bananas, almonds, peppers, citrus, avocado)
#3 Exercise your most intimate muscle à Kegels
Your pelvic floor muscles should be strengthened, stretched, and released to enhance your sexual pleasure. Just like any other muscle, working out your pelvic floor muscles gives them strength, which may help you have, and better yet, feel, an orgasm. Kegels help tighten, lift, tone, and strengthen your pelvic muscles. Simply tighten your muscles like you would if you were stopping the flow of urine, and then release. Try to do a few sets multiple times a day.
#4 Try libido-enhancing supplements
Check with your healthcare provider before beginning any new supplement regimen. Here are a few supplements believed to help increase libido and put a little oomph in your sex drive.
*Gingko biloba (may increases sex drive)
*Ginseng (Korean Red Ginseng has been known to improve the sex drive in menopausal women)
*L-arginine (has been helpful in treating decreased sexual desire in women)
*Maca (has been shown to improve sexual desire in men and women)
*Tribulus (has been shown to improve arousal, desire, lubrication, and satisfaction in women)
#5 Manage your stress
Life is rough, but stress is not sexy. It can cause all sorts of health problems and just mentally drain you. High stress levels can cause an increase in your body’s stress hormone(cortisol), hindering your sexual arousal. Reach out to a mental health professional to assist you in finding healthy coping skills and ways to manage your stress and emotions.
#6 Eliminate bad habits
*A little bit of alcohol may put you in the mood, but too much of itcan have the opposite effect…making you lose some sexual arousal and sensitivity.
*Caffeine can cause a decrease in sexual activity.
*Cigarettes decrease circulation, making it harder to get your sexual juices flowing.
#7 Rebuild the relationship with your partner
Open communication is one of the best things you can give your relationship. Your partner can only truly know when something is wrong with you if you tell them. Issues in a relationship like anger, hurt feelings, and resentment don’t leave space for intimacy. Talking out your differences and working through your issues will decrease tension and hopefully bring you closer together.
#8 Focus on your body to learn what turns you on
No one knows your body like you, and the best way to figure out how to get you aroused and ready to play is to spend some time with yourself. Time to figure out what you like and don’t like, what feels good and not so good, what turns you on…and off. During this time of self-pleasure, your only focus is you, so take the time to get familiar with your body. Do you need more foreplay, extra clitoral stimulation, a new position, music, or a certain ambience? You’re not under any pressure to please someone else, you’re simply thinking of, and pleasing, yourself.
#9 Use a stimulating cream or arousal gel
If it takes you a little longer to get in the mood, try a stimulating gel or arousal cream, like Awakened, our clitoris stimulating gel. Rub it directly on your clitoris for a warm tingling sensation that helps increase circulation to your clitoris and helps get you where you need to be!
A decrease in your libido doesn’t have to be the end of your sex life. Before you bring in medications and other things, look into natural ways help boost your libido and help you get back in the mood. If a medical condition is the reason for the decrease in your sex drive, make sure you speak to your healthcare provider to address the medical issue at hand first. Afterwards, give a few of these options a try to see if you can rediscover your inner vixen and get your groove back, Stella!
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